Growing up, we are taught to be giving, selfless and to put others first. As we get older, we realize that the only way we can accomplish these things, is taking care of ourselves. When we are an overflowing full vessel, we can impact others in a positive way. However, when we are drained and lose control, we have nothing left to give to others. For this reason, it is so important to realize you can be selfish about certain aspects of your life and put yourself first.
“You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” – Lucille Ball
Sometimes, you can be selfish, simply because you are entitled to demand your respect, your space and the ability to make your own choices. If we are constantly letting others take the wheel, we won’t be heading in the right direction to achieve our own goals and dreams.
“You must love yourself first, of course, and you must protect yourself so that nobody overrides you, overrules you or steps on you. Just say ‘Just a minute, I’m worth everything, dear’.” – Maya Angelou
So, what are these areas of your life in which you can be selfish? Or course, you can choose which aspects you want to have complete control over, but here are a few ideas to get you started:
You Can Be Selfish About Your:
- Spirituality – Do not let anyone else dictate what you should or should not believe in
- Physical Boundaries – Do not let anyone touch you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable
- Time – You may choose who you spend your time with and what you spend your time on
- Priorities – What and who is most important to you is entirely your choice
- Relationships – You have the right to be selfish about ending toxic relationships
- Physical and Mental Wellness – You have the right to put your health before anything else
- Career & Goals – Do not let anyone stand in the way of what you want in life
I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet.” – Gandhi
Don’t get me wrong, selflessness is an amazing quality that everyone should strive toward. Giving back to others and lending a helping hand is important, as long as you take time to love yourself as well.
I feel so blessed and thankful to have freedom of choice and of my beliefs. Still, sometimes I struggle to say no, or I agree to spend my time in a way that neglects what I need. Something I try to remind myself is that you can be selfish and not feel bad about it.
As adults, we are the only ones who can set boundaries for ourselves and truly know what our needs are. Be sure to listen attentively to what your mind, body and soul may need and put yourself first.
Remember, sometimes, you can be selfish.
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