Today is my 25th birthday! This truly feels like a milestone birthday for me for two reasons. Firstly, because I am a quarter century old! Secondly, I feel as thought I am very happy with where I am at in my life and the people who I am surrounded by. I am beginning to solidify the life that I have created for myself and it makes me feel so good! I thought for my birthday post I would share 25 things I’ve learned in 25 years.
As you may know from my last couple posts, I am currently in Cuba right now on vacation with my lovely boyfriend, David! Before I left, I had some time to reflect on what I have learned over the first 25 years of my life. I have seen so many posts like this one and I always love reading the lessons people have learned. So, I thought it would only make sense to make my own list! In no particular order of importance-
25 Things I’ve Learned In 25 Years
1. Success looks different to everyone
You cannot compare your success to anyone else’s. Do not let anyone else define what success should look like, it is your decision.
2. Take it one day at a time
And if a whole day is too much to tackle, just focus on the current minute. The hard days pass and you will get through them. There has never been a day you haven’t survived.
3. If you never ask, you’ll never know
Take risks, be bold and ask questions. Reach out for help and you’ll be surprised with the results.
4. Worrying is absolutely useless
Channel any useless worry or anxiety into helpful excitement and anticipation. If you can’t change it, there’s no use in worrying about it. If it’s not going to matter in a year from now, don’t let it matter today.
5. Don’t be afraid to say no
This is a lesson I am still learning to master. I am an introvert at heart and a homebody. When it comes to leaving my house for plans or activities, I usually have to drag myself there. Sometimes, it’s good for me to step outside my comfort zone because it creates my fondest memories. Other times, when I truly need to re-charge and take a moment of self-care, I have realized it is okay to say no.
6. Nobody is paying attention to what you look like
If you’re having a bad hair day, or there is a huge zit on your chin, I promise you, nobody cares. Don’t let how you look make you feel uncomfortable in your skin. Everyone is dealing with their own problems and most likely aren’t even considering yours. We’re only human, you don’t need to be your best self all the time.
7. There is enough room for everyone to succeed
Jealousy doesn’t get you anywhere. If someone asks you for help, help them. Leave footprints for others to follow. Chances are, the more you help others, the more they will lend you a hand when you need it. Practice good karma, there is enough room in this world for all of us.
8. Never stop your pursuit for knowledge
Learning shouldn’t just be done at school. Find a passion and let it motivate you to grow and learn. Ask questions to people who have gone through different challenges than you. Have intellectually stimulating conversations and read lots of books. Let the world intrigue you, there is so much to digest we could never possibly learn it all.
9. Spend within your means
Credit cards are not for wracking up debt. Even with a credit card you should still only spend money you have, or will have within the month. I am still paying for this mistake (literally).
10. Doing things that scares you helps you grow
In the words of Eleanor Roosevelt, “Do one thing every day that scares you.” Why? It forces you to become stronger and do things you never thought possible. All of our biggest accomplishments were once a huge risk. When we take a leap of faith, that’s when the magic happens. It might be scary, but it will grow your confidence in the end and I promise you will not regret it!
11. Believe in something
Have faith in something bigger. Believe that the Universe, or God, or something is looking out for you. It helps calm the soul and soothe the spirit. There is magic in this world and miracles happen every day for those who are willing to see it. Believe in yourself, believe in your dreams, just believe in something.
12. Nobody has it all figured out
I used to look at adults and think that once you hit a certain age you understood everything there is to know about life. Now that I am 25, I realize nobody has all the answers. Everyone is just flying by the seat of their pants and trying to do the best they can. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself, just go with the flow.
13. Live your wildest dreams
Life is too short to doubt whether or not your dreams can come true. If you can dream it, you can do it. Why not just go for it? What do you have to lose? Turn your dreams into plans and cross them off like a To-Do List. See where this life can take you!
14. Re-evaluate your goals often
Have short-term goals, long-term goals, goals of the day, goals of the week, goals for your life and everything in between! Stay ambitious, work hard and make the most out of every day. Even if you never achieve all of your goals, continue to make them so you are always striving for something. Enjoy the journey!
15. You are not defined by your body – You are a soul with a body
Be thankful for what your body can do. The places it can take you and the things it can teach you. Try to be gentle and take care of your body physically. Your wrinkles, your stretch marks and your blemishes do not define you as a person. It’s what’s on the inside that counts. Your body is just a vessel for your soul to experience the world. Treat it with care.
16. Never ignore red flags in a relationship
When your mother, your friends or the little voice inside your head cautions you about your relationship, don’t brush it off. As soon as red flags pop up, do not ignore them and sweep them under the rug. Address issues immediately because lack of communication and never bringing up these red flags is the biggest reason for relationships to end.
17. Do not rely on anyone else to make you happy
Independence is so important. If you rely on others to feel like a whole, complete individual, you are sure to run into some problems. Know how to take care of yourself and make yourself feel happy and 100%. A relationship should not complete you, it should be an added bonus to your already complete self.
18. True love doesn’t make you all aflutter, it grounds you with peace and comfort
When I was a teenager, I thought love was when someone made you so nervous you couldn’t even put words into a sentence. Now I realize that falling in love with your best friend, the one who grounds you and enjoys the same adventures as you will bring you the most happiness. Love should make you feel safe, not anxious.
19. Do not let bitterness steal your sweetness
The world can be terrifying and jaded and miserable sometimes. That doesn’t mean that happy, wonderful things aren’t happening too. Choose to focus on the love and goodness in the world rather than the hate. Spread joy and do your best not to let anyone’s negativity rain on your sunshine.
20. Have an attitude of gratitude every single day
Being thankful for what you have is actually a form of meditation. It brings you so much joy when you focus on what you appreciate in your life. Every single day, make a conscious effort to think of the people and the things that you are grateful for, and thank them in your mind.
21. You do not need validation from anyone
Make the choices that you feel are right for you. As an adult, you do not need to justify your decisions to anyone, as long as you are following your heart and doing what makes you happy.
22. Decide that your world is beautiful, and it will be
Change your thought patterns to think positive. Train your eyes to see beauty in everything. Find the miracle in every day. Be conscious of your mindset and it will automatically bring more joy into your life.
23. Treat yourself with care
Self-care looks different for everyone. Take a nap, have a bath, paint your nails, have a glass of wine. Do something to treat yourself, because you deserve it. Life can go by so fast and we can burn out so easily if we don’t take time to give our bodies time to rest and re-charge. You only get one you, so take good care of it.
24. You’re braver than you think you are
If I had to pick the most important thing out of the 25 things I’ve learned in 25 years, it would probably be this one. You can do so much more than you think you can. Even if you think something is impossible for you to get through, just keep walking through the rain and I promise the sun will be shining on the other side. “You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think and loved more than you know.”- Winnie the Pooh
25. Decluttering your space will declutter your mind
If you are ever feeling over-whelmed, anxious, tired or any sort of negative emotion, clean. I know it sounds silly, but when you organize your space, it organizes your mind and brings you peace. Clearing your house will clear your mind. Try it out!
I hope you enjoyed reading my list of 25 Things I’ve Learned In 25 Years. I certainly do not take it for granted that I have been blessed with so many beautiful years of life so far. What is the most important lesson you have learned over the course of your life so far? Which lesson on my list resonated most with you? Let me know in the comments below!
Happy 25th Birthday to me 🙂
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